Reflection #9
I consider myself a quite supportive person. Whenever my friend does something well, I always congratulate them and I'm happy for them. This doesn't change the fact that whenever my friend does something better than me, for example when they get a better grade on a test, I get jealous. I do not like being worse at something. I have realised that even though many people say jealousy is bad, I do not fully agree. I think jealousy is a natural thing, it is an emotion you often cannot control. It isn't a bad thing, what matters is how you handle it. It's ok to feel jealous as long as you don't act on it. Whenever I get jealous of my friend doing something better than me, I am happy for them despite feeling this way because I know that if it was the other way around, they would do the same for me. As long as you don't let it affect your actions, jealousy isn't harmful to you or the people around you.
To be honest, I'm not convinced. Isn't envy a rather destructive thing in a relationship? Even if you don't 'act on it', it keeps accumulating, especially when one person in the relationship regularly 'outperforms' the other. In the end, you keep pretending that everything is fine while secretly developing a deadly combination of envy, contempt and anger. Not very healthy.
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